There’s no denying the impact of text. Over the past decade, it’s quickly become our go-to source of communication, and there’s no reason to suspect the trend will change anytime soon. But just because we can share so much information now over text messages doesn’t mean we should. Here are five messages that you should never say over text.
You probably saw this one coming since most agree that breaking up over text message is downright hurtful. While it might be the easy way out for the person sending the breakup request, it’s one of those messages you should never send over text. With respect to the other person and the relationship you built, keep breakups as face-to-face conversations.
In long-distance relationships where a face-to-face conversation isn’t possible, calling them over the phone is far superior to a dreaded break up text. Certain text messages breakups can be okay for super short-term relationships or one-time dates (check out this Bustle guide for more info).
This one should also be obvious. Personal information like your social security number or credit card information shouldn’t be shared over text. This is one method scammers like to use to gain hold of your information, so be cautious. Don’t share too much personal data, even if the source appears to be trustworthy.
Phew. Even reading this message on the screen right now causes some anxiety. “We need to talk” is one of those anxiety-inducing messages that should never be sent over text because it will cause stress for the person on the other end of the line. According to psychology expert Dr. Linda Kaye, if the person doesn’t have additional context on what the conversation refers to, our brains are wired to assume negative news. If possible, turn the vague “we need to talk” into a “hey, we should talk today about finalizing our weekend plans.” But if the topic is more serious than that, we recommend having an in-person conversation or talking over the phone or facetime.
We understand the ease of sending a thank you text message to guests for attending a special event, but the truth is that thank you texts will never be as thoughtful as a handwritten note. Especially for significant life events like weddings and baby showers, sending your guests a handwritten thank you card shows that you value their time, money, and energy. It might take a little extra time, but it’s well worth it.
In keeping with our advice above, “I’m so sorry” messages to grieving friends, colleagues, or family members should never be sent over text. In these sensitive times, it’s always best to send a handwritten card to let the recipient know they’re in your thoughts. For those closest to you, reach out and show your support in person.