Love is one of those things that all of us want, but for singles, disappointing dates and failed relationships can have the most romantic person giving love a major side-eye. If you’ve given up on the formalities of dating, TV host Vasavi Kumar may be able to spark your interest in love again as she shares these thoughts to reignite your dating life:
Find Beauty in Imperfection: “Ever wonder how some couples just seem to have it all together? Like their life is simply ‘perfect?’ With the age of Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking sites, It’s really easy to get caught up in the ‘their life is so AH-mazing and my life sucks’ mentality’. I have a secret to share with you. Most of the time what you see ‘out there’ is rarely ever a true representation of what actually is. You see, it’s easy to get caught in the ‘perfection’ of other people’s lives and miss out on the beauty of our own life.”
Love Yourself First: “Dating isn’t hard at all. However, it’s hard when you don’t have an intimate relationship with yourself. The problem is, when we are not happy in our lives, we bring that energy into our personal relationships. When you don’t know who YOU are, you will fall for anything and everyone OR you will continue to push away a potential partner because you believe dating has to be hard and how could it be this easy.”
Don’t fall for your own stories. “I’m often asked by women who want to get into relationships. ‘Why is dating so hard? I just can’t seem to find the right one!’ The fact of the matter is, if you tell yourself it’s hard, it will be and you will manifest that in every potential relationship. Ultimately the question isn’t: ‘Why does it have to be so hard?’ The question is: “What am I DOING to have it be so hard?”
“If you go with it, be open, and trust that whatever will happen will happen, you’ll start to see that things will flow,” she says.
About The Author: Vasavi Kumar, LMSW, MSEd. is co-author of the best-selling book Succeeding in Spite of Everything and appears on TV as the “Keepin’ It Real Guru” on Kansas City Live. The Columbia University-trained master social worker, certified life coach and TV host, is married to the man of her dreams, but it wasn’t that long ago she was dating and making the same kinds of missteps we all do.