Blogger and comedian Gloria Shuri Nava has gotten some rough comments about her relationship with a thin man. For those of us plus size women who tend to like men on the slimmer side, the comments that Gloria faced seem all too familiar. I have never received comments as harsh as Gloria Shuri Nava (“She has a boyfriend? What is wrong with the world?” or “These two had sex?! Oh god, why”) however, I have had past boyfriends whose exes could not believe they traded “up”so to speak. I’ve even had one ex that constantly reminded me that I was the largest he had been with (at a size 22/24). Comments of that nature are not only offensive but also can be hurtful. I would say I’m shocked at the level of rudeness but if a bi-racial Cheerios commercial can cause controversy and negative backlash then surely a plus size woman and her thin boyfriend can do the same.
The question of size or race in this day and age should be irrelevant. The fact is 2 people fell in love with something deeper than an outer appearance. If anyone has a problem with it then it’s within themselves and not those that are allowing themselves to feel one of the greatest gifts we have in life; love. To have love, give it and receive it is a gift and a privilege that should not be dictated by looks. It’s interesting that by being with someone who cares for her, Gloria has started to care more for herself. She’s now outwardly showing how good she feels on the inside by wearing different things outside of her comfort zone and she’s even getting healthier.
I hope Ali and Gloria’s story inspires others to look past the outer and find someone that sees them for them.
Have you received any negative comments about the slendor men you choose to date?