We encourage our readers to write to us and let us know what’s on their minds. Today’s Reader Submission comes from Michelle Daugherty.
I grew up feeling that I was not good enough, not skinny enough. I always heard, “You have such a pretty face, if you could just lose weight..” For years, I believed this, then in my late 30’s, something clicked, something inside me screamed, “You ARE good enough, you are beautiful and sweet and they are WRONG!”
I read everything I could on building self esteem and loving yourself and healing and forgiveness. I did some “emotional and social housekeeping” and surrounded myself with only positive people. I began plus size modeling, building a women’s empowerment program. I currently blog at and just started a women’s support site where I constantly encourage women of all shapes and sizes to love themselves but am also extremely interested in encouraging plus size women to embrace their curves and be proud of their bodies.
Imagine my dismay when I just read that “twenty years ago the average fashion model weighed 8% less than the average woman; today, she weighs 23% less, that the majority of plus-size models on agency boards are between a size 6 and 14, and most runway models meet the Body Mass Index physical criteria for Anorexia”.
Really? A size 6 is considered “plus” size now?!
This is an outrage! Society needs to stop force-feeding us this DANGEROUS ideal of this imaginary perfect woman.
Real women come in all shapes and sizes. Genuine beauty comes in the form of real, flesh and blood, live women with hips, curves, women who most likely are not 110 pound angular stick figures.
Even the plus size industry disappoints in that although they “sell” plus size clothes, they market them by using “non-plus size” women. How will I know what a pair of pants are going to look on my size 22 hips when the model wearing the pants is a size 10!?
If you’re going to sell to me, then respect me enough to show women MY size! You proudly proclaim it is the year of the plus size woman, that curves are great but still use slender models to market your clothes!
This is insulting to myself and women like me, who are plus size and shop in your stores and on your sites. Even when I think about trying out to model on many of these sites, I find that my type of supposed “plus” size is not considered, even though they are selling clothes of MY size to women like me! Again, this is utterly ludicrous and more than a little insulting.
Plus size women need to stand up and say, “Enough is enough! We want companies selling to us to market TO US!” We need to make our voices heard to society, to the plus size industry, to the straight size fashion industry, to family, to friends, to strangers, to everyone we meet!
At one time women couldn’t wear pants, at one time women could only have limited jobs, nurse, secretary, teacher or housekeeper, at one time women could not vote.
All that has changed. Why can’t society evolve in the idea of fashion and size? It is time for change. It is time to evolve.
Will you do your part? I know I will.