Do you find yourself on the go constantly? So much that you neglect certain friendships. It’s not as if you’re doing it on purpose but sometimes life has a way going non-stop and one day of not calling a person turns into to 3 days and before you know it 3 months have passed since you’ve talked to your childhood best friend.
Shasta Nelson, life coach and CEO of the women’s friendship matching site, GirlFriendCircles.com shares 5 tips for Finding time for Friends.
Book it: Make a standing appointment with your nearest and dearest. Say every Tuesday night. Or first Sunday of the month. Or get really creative and buy yourselves a season subscription to a theater, or orchestra, or sports team. That way there are no five e-mails back and forth figuring out what works. You’ve got the slot; stick to it.
Piggyback it: Figure out what you need to get done, what your dear friend needs to get done, and do it together. Be it a pedicure, or shopping for undies, or a trip to the gym.
Bond it: When you do make time to be together, don’t dawdle around on the surface, take it deeper. Ask questions that matter. Don’t just get updates on the kids but find out how she’s feeling about her parenting. Use the time to actually bond, not just be together.
Make it multiples: See a few nearest and dearest friends at the same time. Get together in groups of anywhere from three to six close friends. I don’t want to sound crass, but it takes less time to share stuff once, instead of calling each of those friends and retelling the same story. And that way you get four unique responses at once. This generous approach helps more of you reconnect — and if a pressing deadline or last-minute obligation forces one person to cancel, the rest still get to bond.
Pare it: The challenge for some women is that their network of friends is so vast, they feel they can’t possibly keep up with everyone. Pick anywhere from three to five friends who matter the most. You simply don’t have to be friends with everyone as that risks you not really feeling close to anyone. Prioritize. Give the most time to the ones who matter most and who feed you the most.