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Are You Letting Fear Stop You?


Are You Letting Fear Stop You?

I recently read an acronym for F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real and it stuck with me for about a week.  Isn’t this exactly what fear is?  The threat of pain or hurt or failure can sometimes cause some of us to get caught up in negative thinking and whether or not the threat is real or imagined it is still a crippling feeling or condition of being afraid.

What are we afraid of?  Well the answers here varies from person to person and situation to situation but I want to remind all of you that FEAR is a self-made prison that you can get yourself out of if you chose to, all it takes is a renewed mind.  Think about how the bully is created.  I say created because a bully usually is more bark than bite.  A bully looks for the weakest link and attacks it.  The bully knows who lacks self-confidence and isn’t afraid to take what you own, whether it is property or just self-respect.  Once the bully gets over on you the first time, it is very easy for the next time to occur, so on and so forth.  So what am I saying?  I am saying that if we keep feeding into our fears we are going to create a giant in our lives; one that we feel could never be conquered and one that will always be there sapping us of all that we desire and all that we are meant to be.

I was a victim of fear for a long time.  I allowed other peoples’ thoughts and ideas to put a period at the end of my sentence and dictate to me what I was supposed to do with MY life.  I never knew that stepping out on faith could have opened up so many opportunities for me but it did even in terms of modeling.  I have always wanted to model but was told I couldn’t because I was too “big”.  Look at all the opportunities made available now in modeling and in fashion for the full-figured and curvy woman!  Someone had to step out on faith to start making it happen.  As an aspiring model I constantly tell myself that I can make it out there in the “modeling world” but as a person who has never had a paid modeling job, sometimes I tell myself well maybe I am getting too old, or maybe they are not looking for what I have to offer but I am not alone in this thinking.

Many of you aspiring models have shared with me similar thoughts but don’t give up!  Don’t allow your fears to stop you from going for your dreams.  I took a little time off from doing photoshoots because I was going to stop modeling altogether, not because I didn’t love it but because I was afraid of what it would actually mean for me if I became successful at reaching my dream – my whole life would change!  I would actually be doing something I love for a living and what about if I messed that up?  I won’t allow this thinking to get in my way.  I am being as open and honest as I can be about this thing because fear is a bully that must be replaced with faith.  Faith can move mountains and all it takes is just a little to make it to the next step!  So what are you waiting for?  Start being proactive in your future today and start now by facing your fears and moving on to being happier and healthier mind body and soul.  We must THRIVE!  God Bless!

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