One day you log into your Facebook account only to find a comment from your spouse on a mutual friends’ page. Do you remain calm despite the fact that your spouse NEVER requested your friendship or do you go ballistic? Your reaction may be the reason that they decided to keep their social networking a persona a secret. The other reason they may be keeping their account a secret is due to the extracurricular activities they’re participating in that doesn’t include you.
Nonetheless, are you okay with your spouse having a Facebook page (friend or not)?
A recent survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that 81 percent of divorce attorneys have seen an increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence during the past five years. More than 66 percent of those attorneys said the No. 1 site most often used as evidence is Facebook with its 400 million registered users.
Another recent survey by Divorce-Online.com of more than 5,000 attorneys says Facebook is mentioned in about 20 percent of divorce cases.
In fact, spouses cheating on Facebook is so common that Ken Savage of Lowell, Massachusetts, created FacebookCheating.com in 2009. This website was created after finding out that his wife had an affair that was initiated on Facebook. According to website it is a way “to help others cope with someone cheating on them as well as shine light upon someone who is using Facebook to cheat.”
I’m not implying that all spouses on Facebook cheat. In fact, I’m willing to bet that there are more spouses on Facebook that faithful than those who are not. But I can’t help but wonder, What is about social networking sites that make cheating so easy and enticing?