Mo’Nique’s character in the movie Precious: Based on the Novel “Push” by Sapphire, tells the story of a teenager who is habitually abused by a mother from hell. And while Mo’Nique has won accolades for her portrayal of evil personified, Dr. Jeffrey Fine hopes her award-winning role serves as a wake-up call to moms and dads everywhere.
“Parents need to look at the epidemic of abuse and neglect in modern-day America,” says Dr. Fine, a psychologist with 30 years of experience. Pointing to ways most abuse starts out small and builds upon itself, he says brain-damaging trauma can also occur when parents spank their kids, abandon them in day care, or ignore their needs in a myriad of ways.
“This neglect begins in infancy,” Dr. Fine warns. “What’s the message mothers give their kids while plopping pacifiers in their mouths? I don’t have time to nurse you. Your needs are not important.”
Dr. Fine, whose work as founder and director of the American Foundation for Conscious Parenting places him at the forefront of effective parenting trends, believes it’s time for parents to free themselves from the shackles of America’s materialistic, career-obsessed culture.
“American society is not child-friendly,” Dr. Fine asserts, saying that motherhood has been trivialized, with devastating consequences. “Though it’s not politically correct to admit it, children who are raised by parental substitutes, whether by nannies or by day care, do not get their needs met, and suffer as children and adults.”
A former student of the famed Joseph Chilton Pearce, and a member of the Association for Pre- and Perinatal Psychology and Health, Dr. Fine stresses that moms and dads should shun unhealthy societal norms and engage in conscious child-centered parenting. He suggests that new parents sleep with their babies and engage in baby-wearing instead of stroller use and cites breastfeeding, contact with nature, and simple low-tech creative play as ways to raise happier, healthier children.
His book, THE ART OF CONSCIOUS PARENTING: The Natural Way To Give Birth, Bond With, And Raise Healthy Children (which he wrote with his wife, Dalit Fine, M.S.), has been praised by child development experts worldwide.
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